Maybe you have heard of de-armouring before, or you're just curious about it. Nonetheless, here is a guide to what it is all about.
When googling de-armouring
You will probably end up with a lot of different suggestions which may excite you or put you off; like anal, vaginal, or penis de-armouring, being at the center stage; often promising pleasure, amazing orgasms, and blissful being. While this is not incorrect, this may be the over-your-boundary place to start your journey, and your self-improvement work may need to start elsewhere.
When booking a de-armouring session with Slow Bodywork, even if you book a yoni de-armouring, we always start with a conversation about where you are emotionally, and what trauma you are carrying around, which may change the nature of your session. It may be better to start with boundaries, for example, so you can feel into what is okay, and especially what is not, before starting a session.
What actually happens in your body
If you have ever experienced violence, shaming, abandonment, manipulation, or violation, or if you feel that you are subjected to negative thought-patterns or conditioning because of it, or if you tend to breathe shallowly, hold your breath, or avoid sighing with sound, you are symptomatic of having armour - also referred to as "shields". Over time these experiences and patterns create what is referred to what is called armour, or stagnant energy, muscle tension, which in turn affects our health and mental wellbeing, your relationships, work, and how you show up in the world.
In a way you could say that your body "is the sum of your experiences", and de-armouring is the process of triggering, facing and releasing those experiences in a safe, loving space. Clients often cry, laugh, scream, curse, cough, and jump around, as these experiences try to leave the body - and it can at times look like an exorcism, if you are unaware of what is going on.
This beautiful video created by my mentor Sunny Ju can give you an example of what a session looks like:
Emotional blockages, numbness, and a lack of sensitivity in muscles is often a sign of this armour, which physically can manifest as tension. This tension and emotion is found in all your muscles to a large or smaller degree, but especially in specific muscles in the face, chest, stomach, hips, thighs, and genital area. Core muscles like the psoas or illiacus are good examples, since they are often tense and contain a lot of repressed memory, usually related to running away.
To release these blockages, we engage in either exercises which activate your nervous system, like jumping, shaking, or boundaries work (all related to coming into your body) or we do a pressure point massage on specific points.
Armour in sexual areas
Our genitals are made of tissue and muscles like the rest of our body - so naturally suffer the same issues. Areas like the yoni (vagina), both externally and internally, or the lingam (penis), the anal sphincter, and the pelvic floor can and lose sensation and sensitivity as a consequence of our experiences.
Men have a tendency to store fear and shame in the lingam and anus, and women can store a many different emotions in their yoni, cervix, and womb - created from non-consensual traumatic intercourse like rape or abuse.
The process of de-armouring
De-armouring is, as the name suggest, to "remove armour". It is both an empowerment tool and a holistic healing therapy which utilizes breath, sound, movement, touch, massage, external or internal pressure points, stretching, shaking, conversation, talk-therapy, and various powerful exercises. It can be practitioner lead or participant guided, giving or receiving oriented, hands-on or off, and even just be about being touched or held with unconditional love, pure intention and presence. This versatility can quite effective and highly transformative for the participant, and release emotions, trauma, blockages, tension, numbness, and pain stored in the body, opening it up to pleasure, enlightenment, understanding, and better connection.
What happens in a session
First of all, your first session is special - and 30-60 minutes is added to create space for us to connect and for me to learn about you and your body. From that, every session will be unique and intuitively based, depending on your situation, consent, and boundaries, but will keep the standard timeframe of 2 hours. Since no two sessions are the same, this is a base outline of a common practice:
The session space contains two chairs, a soft, thin mattress on the floor covered with a sarong or sheet, plenty of pillows, candles, aroma therapy, low music playing in the background, and various tools used in the practice. The space is always cleansed energetically before with either Sage or Palo Santo.
The first half an hour is typically a relaxed conversation - often about your life situation, current emotional state, and anything relevant to the coming session. Often guests ask questions here. After this, you are invited to lie down to start the session, or an exercise. The whole session may just be exercises.
If invited to the mattress, you typically start by lying on your back and we decide which body-part to start with - usually lower abdomen or chest for the first time. Instructions are given, together with some body shaking and soft touch just to prepare you and land in your body.
The pressure point massage follows, with individual points pressed at a time. Once a point has been pressed for a given time, I withdraw and let your process unfold. Emotions may rise - or there may be nothing happening, in any case the space is helt for you to open up in.
This process is continued several times, depending on what happens, and we end with a short debrief.
The intention of the yoni de-armouring massage is to open and activate your orgasmic potential, activate your kundalini energy, and help you move emotional blockages up and out. It is extra attentive and soft, and focuses specifically on your Yoni and is designed to make you feel safe and relaxed. Because of this, it is a little different than regular de-armouring.
It starts with a back and front massage, activating the skin and lymphatic system, while relaxing and softening your body. Slowly, in your pace, the massage is then moved toward your temple. Relaxing, soothing, and loving touch is given outside the yoni - and once invited in, internal massage and de-armouring is given. This include mapping, pressure, strokes, scrapes, and other types of touch.
It is then finished with a delicate and gentle exit, holding your space, leaving your yoni feeling soft and velvety.
Possible effects of a de-armouring session
De-armouring helps to open up the body’s natural energy pathways so life force, or sexual energy, may flow unobstructed through the whole body.
Get rid of tension and toxins
Remove blockages, emotional or energetic
Releasing negative memories, beliefs and emotions.
Effects of yoni de-armouring
Symptoms of an armoured yoni include:
Hard tissue along the walls of the yoni
Small grain-like lumps
Numb areas or total numbness
Lack of sensitivity
Contracted and hard inner muscles
A hard and overly sensitive cervix
Pain during love-making
Inability to experience deep yoni orgasms, or G-spot and full body orgasms
No orgasms at all
A need to rub your clit hard (as the only way for you to climax).
In the case of a yoni de-armouring, the less armour your yoni holds, the more open, youthful, sexy and vibrant you'll look and feel, and the more sensitive your yoni will feel - opening up to internal orgasms of all kinds.
You will reconnect with your sexuality and understand it better
You and your yoni will feel sensitive, soft, juicy and readily open for love-making
You will be able to feel deeper pleasure all over your body
Good to know
Internan de-armouring is not recommended during moon phase (ie. your period).
There is an option of frequency therapy with s body-weighted tuning fork.
All emotions and arousals are welcome during the massage.
Pleasure and orgasms are welcome but climax is not the intention of the massage.
A de-armouring session is a one-way touch setup, but if support is needed this is okay.
De-armouring is a self-development process and not a replacement for therapy. Please note that participation is NOT suitable if:
Have active unresolved severe psychological trauma (from rape, sexual abuse, war trauma, etc.)
You are in an active state of trauma, psychosis or have nerve related issues e.g. epilepsy, fibromyalgia
You have other serious psychological or physical illnesses
You are pregnant
Please get in touch with me if you’re unsure if about any of the above, or other indications.
If you want to learn to de-armour, or you want to level up your experience, retreats are by far the best solution. The energy of the group alone helps lifting the energy, and participants always look completely changed in a positive way after one of these amazing getaways. I can HIGHLY recommend attending Sunnys retreats:
More information on her website here.
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